Getting to 'I Do'

In 'Getting to 'I Do', Pat Allen and Sandra Harmon unveil the secrets of effective communication and emotional intelligence in relationships. The book guides readers through the intricate dance of dating and commitment, providing tools to navigate the complexities of love. With insightful anecdotes and practical exercises, it empowers individuals to understand their needs and desires. Dive into a transformative exploration of self-discovery and connection that challenges conventional dating norms. Discover how to shift from feeling lost in love to confidently finding your ideal partner.

By Pat Allen, Sandra Harmon

Published: 1995

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