Mating in Captivity
In 'Mating in Captivity', psychotherapist Esther Perel explores the intricate dance between intimacy and erotic desire within long-term relationships. She challenges societal norms, revealing how the paradox of love and lust can be maintained amidst the routines of everyday life. Perel uses real-life case studies to illustrate her insights, exposing the vulnerabilities that couples face when trying to keep passion alive. As she delves into the psychology of desire, she offers provocative strategies to reignite the spark in committed partnerships. This compelling examination leaves readers questioning: Can love and desire truly coexist?
By Esther Perel
Published: 2007
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